Asexual people who have sex with others for closeness, intimacy, and even physical pleasure in the absence of attraction, were my gateway to feeling an affinity as an allosexual sex worker who also has sex without attraction.
Category Archives: LGBT
Trans Solidary With Sex Workers
Supporting sex workers is not only the right thing to do, because we are a marginalized group who face constant abuse, but it is also beneficial for trans people who do not do sex work to ally themselves with sex workers. We have common struggles.
Hustling on Grindr
Here we will break down what it’s like to sell sex over Grindr, how this impacts safety, and why someone might choose to use Grindr for this instead of a traditional escorting website. Grindr isn’t built for sex workers, but we’re on it anyway!
Frequently Forgotten Top Surgery Tips and Mastectomy Myth-Busting
When planning for top surgery, it can be really daunting. Any kind of surgery is a scary prospect and no matter how many videos you watch or how many people you talk to, you’re never going to be able to perfectly prepare for everything that might happen.
Pansexual Prostitute Panic
Any attraction to men is imagined to override other elements of a bisexual and/or pansexual person’s identity. For queer people selling sex, a skew in the ratio of the genders of their sex partners is likely to develop very quickly, because most sex buyers are men.
Why “Feminist” Anti-Trans Advocates Also Hate Sex Workers
The connection between certain anti-trans ideas and negative views of sex workers is not necessarily clear to people who don’t intimately understand the rhetoric used against each group. Why would having an issue with trans people make someone hate sex workers too? Why would being disgusted by prostitutes make someone hate trans people? For manyContinue reading “Why “Feminist” Anti-Trans Advocates Also Hate Sex Workers”
Transmasculine Guide to Sex Work
If you’re a trans man or transmasculine non-binary person and a sex worker (or want to be a sex worker) then most resources aren’t going to be built with you in mind. The few resources that make an effort to be inclusive will have you as an afterthought and only minimal amounts of advice willContinue reading “Transmasculine Guide to Sex Work”
Hating Men and Hating Sex Buyers
I hear “I hate men” fairly frequently, within certain feminist communities. I once said it often. To be completely honest, I think what opened my eyes to how hating men is useless bigotry was actually selling sex.
Desirability and Insecurity
No matter how much I try not to tie my self-image to what clients think of me, I cannot help but do so. If I start to have less people interested in paying me for sex, I begin to feel as though I’m unattractive. I’m not sure how many other sex workers feel this way,Continue reading “Desirability and Insecurity”
Lesbian Hookers
A lot of people struggle to get their head around the idea of a lesbian having sex with men for money. Sex workers are often either viewed as victims forced into the sex trade (“prostituted women”) or they are seen as sexual deviants choosing to profit from seducing men. The idea of a lesbian whoContinue reading “Lesbian Hookers”
Jack Talks About Sex Work 