If you’re a trans man or transmasculine non-binary person and a sex worker (or want to be a sex worker) then most resources aren’t going to be built with you in mind. The few resources that make an effort to be inclusive will have you as an afterthought and only minimal amounts of advice willContinue reading “Transmasculine Guide to Sex Work”
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Hating Men and Hating Sex Buyers
I hear “I hate men” fairly frequently, within certain feminist communities. I once said it often. To be completely honest, I think what opened my eyes to how hating men is useless bigotry was actually selling sex.
Desirability and Insecurity
No matter how much I try not to tie my self-image to what clients think of me, I cannot help but do so. If I start to have less people interested in paying me for sex, I begin to feel as though I’m unattractive. I’m not sure how many other sex workers feel this way,Continue reading “Desirability and Insecurity”
Advertising Prostitution Online
Being able to advertise the sale of sex online is absolutely vital for sex workers’ safety. It allows us to sell sex independently without relying on managers with access to networks of clients, and to avoid having to work in managed brothels or to sell sex on streets known for prostitution. Something that is commonlyContinue reading “Advertising Prostitution Online”
You’re Not Technically Trapped!
I think it’s natural that when presented with talk about sexual abuse and coercion that we automatically picture something brutal and clear-cut. Most of us are exposed to media which depicts rape as involving violent physical force fairly frequently, and when we hear about it related to sex work it’s often with stories of pimpsContinue reading “You’re Not Technically Trapped!”
Whoring Out Our Trauma
With the global conversation around sex work focusing on sex trafficking and the trauma many sex workers face, sex workers’ stories are subject to being weaponized to deny them the very rights which would protect them from that harm. In Whoring Out Our Trauma: Prostitution and Sexual Abuse, these issues are presented from the pointContinue reading “Whoring Out Our Trauma”
Lesbian Hookers
A lot of people struggle to get their head around the idea of a lesbian having sex with men for money. Sex workers are often either viewed as victims forced into the sex trade (“prostituted women”) or they are seen as sexual deviants choosing to profit from seducing men. The idea of a lesbian whoContinue reading “Lesbian Hookers”
(S)ex workers
We do not have good estimates regarding the total number of sex workers in the world. We cannot even obtain an accurate number of sex workers within an area as small as a city. We can, however, reasonably assume that whatever that number is that there are even more people who have done sex workContinue reading “(S)ex workers”
Trauma Fantasies about Prostitution
When people want to convince others that prostitution is inherently dangerous, and especially when they want to use their claims about the danger to argue that it should be illegal and continue to be stigmatized, they will often resort to giving long descriptions of possible traumatic scenarios for sex workers. Sometimes these scenarios are basedContinue reading “Trauma Fantasies about Prostitution”
My First Brothel Experience
I got into the car of someone I didn’t know and whom I had barely texted in response to an ad about working in a brothel. Sounds like the start of a story someone would tell as a cautionary tale where someone ends up dead, but I was fine.
Jack Talks About Sex Work 