Even referring to minors as being capable of “selling sex” is going to be controversial to a lot of people. A person selling sexual services and being raped or abused are not mutually exclusive – saying minors can sell sex does not minimize that their clients are raping them.
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Post-Client High
As long as a client is not outright abusive or uniquely difficult, the moments after finishing a booking where I hold the money in my hands are an immense high for me. The novelty of earning a day’s wages at another job in the space of an hour never fully wears off.
My Friend is a Sex Worker and I Have Questions!
You’ve just found out that your friend or acquaintance is a sex worker. Naturally, you have questions.
Let’s go through some of the topics you might be curious about and how to approach any questions you still have with your friend:
After Client Aftercare
Sometimes my need for aftercare has been due to a client harming me. Far more frequently, I need it to insulate myself from the stigma which makes me feel alone and ashamed and far more resentful, than I otherwise would be, of an experience which is usually more on the side of annoying than traumatic. Being around other sex workers frees me from those feelings.
Attention Deficit Hooker Disorder
Not all types of sex work are well-suited to ADHD, but it is an easier profession to make accommodating than most. There are certain types of sex work which are favoured by those with ADHD, all of which are impacted by it.
Sexual Autopilot
I’m sure it’s not strictly true that I can’t have sex without slipping into what I think about as my “sex autopilot” mindset. For now, I seem to slip into it often, and it destroys my romantic relationships.
Bullshit Radical Feminist Arguments About Sex Work
Sex work is indeed often dangerous, particularly prostitution. It’s made that way by criminalization and stigma. Decriminalizing it gives sex workers more rights, more freedom, and more control over our bodies and consent. Radical feminists do not wish me well.
Criminalized Friendships
Being friends with a sex worker may mean you face stigma, but if you’re a good friend and you support the sex workers you know then you could also find yourself breaking the law. The law may even end up considering you to be your own friend’s sex trafficker.
How Non Sex Worker Characters Can Be Relatable to Hookers
With the state of current depictions of sex workers, it’s no wonder that the characters I relate to the most from a sex worker perspective often aren’t sex workers at all. They’re created in such a way that they have parallel experiences to a lot of sex workers even without being them.
Applying the Label “Sex Worker” to People Selling Sex Throughout History
When it comes to researching historical prostitution, it is incredibly difficult to find accounts which come directly from people selling sex. The further back in history we go, the more true that is. Since the term “sex worker” is a recent invention, coined in the late 70s, and most works will use euphemisms or derogatory terms, there is often debate over whether it is appropriate to retroactively call people sex workers if they sold sex.
Jack Talks About Sex Work 