I’ve recently had more clients asking for reassurance that I like my job or find them attractive during bookings, and I have some thoughts on it. For a number of clients, I think this desire for reassurance does come from a good place. There’s a lot of messaging about sex work that paints all escortsContinue reading “Clients Wanting Reassurance”
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Clients Assuming Consent
There is a common framing of sex work, where people suggest that sex worker’s bodies are being “purchased” or “rented” when someone pays us for sex. This is not the case. Those of us who sell sex are doing exactly that – selling a sexual service, which will include certain things and not automatically includeContinue reading “Clients Assuming Consent”
The “Happy Hooker” Narrative
To argue against the decriminalization of sex work and to infantilize escorts to the point of arguing that arresting us is what’s best for us, people will talk about how dangerous it is to engage in prostitution. It is common for those who argue for the Nordic Model for sex work, or who want toContinue reading “The “Happy Hooker” Narrative”
Racism Among Sex Workers
Anyone who looks through the profiles of sex workers regularly is going to notice a pattern of racism, particularly in the form of escorts stating “No Black Men” or “NBA” meaning “No Blacks Allowed” on their profiles. When I am scrolling through the profiles of other escorts to get an idea of what hourly ratesContinue reading “Racism Among Sex Workers”
Empowerment vs Objectification: A False Dichotomy
A common anti-sexwork talking point, is that sex workers contribute to the objectification of women. It is often suggested, by certain groups of radical feminists, that we objectify ourselves and present ourselves as a commodity, in a way which harms women’s liberation as a whole. To combat this, some sex workers will respond that theyContinue reading “Empowerment vs Objectification: A False Dichotomy”
Jack Talks About Sex Work 