Selling bareback (unprotected) sex is something sex workers have always done, in varying amounts. There’s always controversy around it within sex worker communities and then waves of disgust from outsiders looking in. Prostitutes are seen as disease vectors by many, referred to as dirty or tainted, and the idea of us selling unprotected sex isContinue reading “Selling Unprotected Sex”
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The Fear of Being Found Out
One of the things that’s hard to explain about the fear of being found out to be a sex worker is why it’s so all-encompassing and terrifying when selling sex is already so dangerous in the first place. Why are we more scared of people finding out that we sell sex than we are of doing it?
The Shame of Discussing Childhood Abuse for Queer People and Sex Workers
One pervasive piece of rhetoric that is used as propaganda against queer people and sex workers alike is that our lifestyles are what they are because we were abused as children. People will argue that gay men were turned gay because they were molested by a man when they were a child, or that lesbiansContinue reading “The Shame of Discussing Childhood Abuse for Queer People and Sex Workers”
Cost of Living Crisis: How Sex Workers Cope
Those who sell sex often have a very different relationship to our bills and recurring costs than people with traditional full-time jobs, especially compared to those who are on a salary. When I’m hit with an unexpected bill, my first thought is always to sell sex to earn enough to pay it in time. IfContinue reading “Cost of Living Crisis: How Sex Workers Cope”
When Teens Joke About Starting Sex Work
Ever been chatting to a teenager or young adult and heard them make a joke about how they should just drop out of school and get a sugar daddy for easy money? Maybe you’ve seen teens joking about how they’ll just start an onlyfans if they fail to get another job or don’t pass theirContinue reading “When Teens Joke About Starting Sex Work”
“All Prostitution is Rape”: A Response
Radical feminists generally lay out the argument that all prostitution is rape as follows: all work under capitalism involves coercion due to the fact that people must earn money to survive, any sex where someone is coerced is rape, therefore prostitution is rape. This is a very simplistic explanation of the argument, but anyone familiarContinue reading ““All Prostitution is Rape”: A Response”
Coming Out as a Sex Worker?
Most sex workers keep their work a secret from at least a subset of people, if not most people in their life. Usually depending on how much stigma they face due to the type of work (legal brothel vs. street work vs. online onlyfans, as some examples) and their personal circumstances (whether they’re a parent,Continue reading “Coming Out as a Sex Worker?”
Who Are You Calling a SWERF?
I know that I’ve been called a SWERF many times, as have other sex workers I know, just for expressing my dislike of my own job.
Secret Sex Work: When Sex Workers Don’t Tell Our Partners
I don’t automatically judge people who keep it a secret from their partners that they sell sex. There are circumstances where I would do the same.
Pre-Prostitution Jitters
I’m really not sure what to call this phenomenon that I experience just before I sell sex after I’ve taken a break, but I’ve heard other sex workers discuss it so I know it’s not an experience unique to me. I’ve jokingly called it “pre-prostitution jitters” and that phrase seems as good as any. WhenContinue reading “Pre-Prostitution Jitters”
Jack Talks About Sex Work 