Being a whore taught me to swallow resentment like nothing else. I learned to hide my disgust at clients’ wealth and entitlement, dodging questions about my true opinions and stroking egos to keep them sweet.
Category Archives: Clients
Why Not Date a Client?
The reason I wouldn’t even consider dating the vast majority of my clients isn’t based on their looks or social status or mannerisms. My clients aren’t all men who I would otherwise find ugly or off-putting. The issue is the dynamic that is created by paying me for sex.
Who Has Time For Sex Worker Rights Activism
When I sell sex less often, I have more time and energy to advocate for sex workers’ rights. This has always been true for me and it has always been a source of frustration and internal conflict.
Sobriety and Selling Sex
In this article, I discuss recently becoming sober and how it’s made me reflect on the ways I was using substances to cope with bad clients or overcome my nervousness about seeing clients.
Anti-Capitalists Selling Sex
For roughly as long as I have been selling sex, anti-capitalism has been central to my core values. There are many people who find my identity as an anti-capitalist to be in conflict with my identity as a sex worker, but I find them to be in perfect alignment.
Reflections on Sex Work During the Covid Lockdown
Covid has had a profound impact on how many sex workers view health, including the health of our clients, and the way we work. I don’t think enough of us have taken the time to consider just how much, and I finally have been.
Clients Cancelling
A cancellation from a sex worker is a minor inconvenience to a client. They can book another sex worker or forego seeing one without any significant consequences. If a client cancels on a sex worker, that cancellation may be the difference between being able to afford food or rent.
Post-Client High
As long as a client is not outright abusive or uniquely difficult, the moments after finishing a booking where I hold the money in my hands are an immense high for me. The novelty of earning a day’s wages at another job in the space of an hour never fully wears off.
After Client Aftercare
Sometimes my need for aftercare has been due to a client harming me. Far more frequently, I need it to insulate myself from the stigma which makes me feel alone and ashamed and far more resentful, than I otherwise would be, of an experience which is usually more on the side of annoying than traumatic. Being around other sex workers frees me from those feelings.
Sexual Autopilot
I’m sure it’s not strictly true that I can’t have sex without slipping into what I think about as my “sex autopilot” mindset. For now, I seem to slip into it often, and it destroys my romantic relationships.
Jack Talks About Sex Work 