While the recent panic about child sex trafficking in the media would have you believe that PornHub and OnlyFans are the main places it’s occurring, and that there are adults kidnapping kids off the street, that’s not reflective of the ways children are actually being taken advantage of. I’d like to talk about some waysContinue reading “Misconceptions About Online Child Exploitation”
Author Archives: mxjackparker
Intentional Condom Breaking
One of the insidious things about clients who intentionally break condoms is that in most cases where they do it, you’ll never be certain. For clients who frequently break the condom while meeting with sex workers, they develop a technique over time to avoid getting caught. Often they’ll combine tactics like suggesting a position whereContinue reading “Intentional Condom Breaking”
Sometimes Selling Sex is a Better Option
When I started selling sex, it was my last resort. The stigma around sex work in society means that it often takes an extreme event (homelessness, the inability to pay for food, the need to pay for urgent healthcare) for someone to start. Once you’ve been involved in sex work, that threshold becomes lower. You’veContinue reading “Sometimes Selling Sex is a Better Option”
Christian Groups and “Rescuing” Sex Workers
There have always been Christian groups who speak about sex work as sinful, but now there is an increasing trend toward seeing sex workers as victims who must be rescued. These groups tend to see sex workers either as fallen women (because of course, they don’t recognize how many sex workers are not women) whoContinue reading “Christian Groups and “Rescuing” Sex Workers”
Clients Cheating On Their Partners
I’m often asked how I feel about the fact that many of my clients are cheating on their spouses or partners with me. My clients are primarily men who are in relationships, if my estimates are correct, based on the clients who tell me so or who wear wedding rings during bookings. It’s something IContinue reading “Clients Cheating On Their Partners”
How Underage Sex Work Really Feels
When I was 17, I started escorting on Seeking Arrangement. The first “sugar daddy” I met there was a serial rapist, choosing “sugar babies” on the site who were inexperienced and that he thought were underage, even though we had to pretend to be over 18. At the time, reading the claims on his profileContinue reading “How Underage Sex Work Really Feels”
Clients Wanting Reassurance
I’ve recently had more clients asking for reassurance that I like my job or find them attractive during bookings, and I have some thoughts on it. For a number of clients, I think this desire for reassurance does come from a good place. There’s a lot of messaging about sex work that paints all escortsContinue reading “Clients Wanting Reassurance”
Clients Assuming Consent
There is a common framing of sex work, where people suggest that sex worker’s bodies are being “purchased” or “rented” when someone pays us for sex. This is not the case. Those of us who sell sex are doing exactly that – selling a sexual service, which will include certain things and not automatically includeContinue reading “Clients Assuming Consent”
Being a Client
People often come to me looking to absolve their guilt about having been a client, or continuing to be a client of sex workers. I am not here to absolve you. I don’t centre the experiences of people who purchase sex, I centre the experiences of sex workers. When I see sex workers talk aboutContinue reading “Being a Client”
“I’d be an escort if not for…”
Sometimes clients will tell me that if they were attractive women, they would be escorts. This comes with the assumption that if they were women, they’d be attracted to men and have a high sex drive. Usually, when I prod carefully at this idea, it becomes clear that they have this imagined idea of whatContinue reading ““I’d be an escort if not for…””
Jack Talks About Sex Work 