Whether you consider all sex workers to be victims, or understand that it’s more complex than that, sex workers aren’t responsible for the behaviour of anyone but themselves. Victims of abuse aren’t enabling abuse by being victims and people in proximity to abusers, who are not their victims, are not automatically responsible for improving theirContinue reading “Are Sex Workers Enabling Abusive Men?”
Author Archives: mxjackparker
The Problem with the Data on Sex Work
To illustrate the problem with finding good data on sex work, I’m going to take you through a journey I had trying to answer a simple question: what percentage of UK sex workers are women? First, to try and work out the number of women in sex work compared to men, I went to variousContinue reading “The Problem with the Data on Sex Work”
Trans Men and Imprisonment
I don’t want anyone in prison, including trans people. While prisons do exist, I don’t want us to treat the rape that occurs within them as if it’s a fucking inevitability; I want to eradicate it.
“Jesus Loved Prostitutes”!
We do not need some sort of Christ-like “hate the sin, love the sinner” attitude, we need the decriminalization of our work and the abolition of poverty.
Is Selling Sex “Skilled Labour”?
Sex work doesn’t have to be skilled for sex workers to deserve rights.
Transmascs Rentboys and Why We Hate Ourselves
There are a lot of sex workers who are trans men or non-binary people. Many of us delay transition, or don’t transition, or convince ourselves that we don’t need to… because of our involvement in sex work. As well as concerns about making enough money alongside a drop in demand, the broader sex work communityContinue reading “Transmascs Rentboys and Why We Hate Ourselves”
Saviour Sex Workers
A number of sex workers will claim that selling sex is a worthwhile profession because it heals people or provides much-needed intimacy. These claims can quickly become extraordinary – certain sex workers, usually those who brand themselves as “high-end” may claim they save marriages or satiate the urges of otherwise violent men… or even thatContinue reading “Saviour Sex Workers”
Hookers Carrying Diseases?
One accusation often levelled at sex workers is that we spread disease. Instead of responding to this by talking about safety measures we take, we should refuse to see catching a disease as a moral failing. There have always been claims about sex workers being “dirty” or “diseased”, mainly with STDs like HIV as theContinue reading “Hookers Carrying Diseases?”
“I want to be more than a client!”
Among clients of sex workers, there’s a particular type that many of us come across who want to be more than clients. Some fall for our personas, some become convinced of our enthusiasm enough to think we want a regular hook-up, and others are lonely and imagine the money as a shortcut to friendship. TheContinue reading ““I want to be more than a client!””
Taking a Break from Sex Work
If you want to travel to the US, you have to say you haven’t sold sex in the last ten years to enter. Assuming you’re on one of their lists, known to be a sex worker, you won’t even be able to appeal for a decade. If you want to report a sexual assault andContinue reading “Taking a Break from Sex Work”