I very much want to be a parent. As someone who sells sex, and who has both an online presence as a sex worker activist and an online presence under a sex worker persona, I’m scared about how the stigma I face will impact parenthood. I thought I’d share my thoughts here.
Tag Archives: Sex Work
Post-Client High
As long as a client is not outright abusive or uniquely difficult, the moments after finishing a booking where I hold the money in my hands are an immense high for me. The novelty of earning a day’s wages at another job in the space of an hour never fully wears off.
My Friend is a Sex Worker and I Have Questions!
You’ve just found out that your friend or acquaintance is a sex worker. Naturally, you have questions.
Let’s go through some of the topics you might be curious about and how to approach any questions you still have with your friend:
Attention Deficit Hooker Disorder
Not all types of sex work are well-suited to ADHD, but it is an easier profession to make accommodating than most. There are certain types of sex work which are favoured by those with ADHD, all of which are impacted by it.
Sexual Autopilot
I’m sure it’s not strictly true that I can’t have sex without slipping into what I think about as my “sex autopilot” mindset. For now, I seem to slip into it often, and it destroys my romantic relationships.
Hooker Math Zine
In this zine we’ll go over how to calculate earnings, the ideal frequency of STD testing, discuss expenses in a brothel compared to independent work, plus go over some fun calculations of how many clients you need to see to afford certain luxuries!
When a Police Officer Showed Up at the Brothel
This post discusses a personal story of being coerced into selling sex to a police officer, under threat of the brothel I was working in being raided in the future. The descriptions are non-graphic, and I mostly talk about my complicated feelings around how I feel like I’ve been lucky compared to others because my experience was not worse.
Woah, I’ve Never Met a Sex Worker Before!
Upon admitting that I’m a sex worker, I’ll get a plethora of different responses that range from supportive to deeply bigoted. Somewhere in the middle of the range of those reactions, towards the more supportive end, are people who seem fascinated by my admission that I sell sex and who have all sorts of invasiveContinue reading “Woah, I’ve Never Met a Sex Worker Before!”
A Guide to (Legally!) Lying About Selling Sex
Selling sex is highly stigmatized and there are many situations in which sex workers are much better off if certain people don’t know they sell sex. This is a guide which discusses the options sex workers have for hiding their work in various situations, both personal and professional.
Pansexual Prostitute Panic
Any attraction to men is imagined to override other elements of a bisexual and/or pansexual person’s identity. For queer people selling sex, a skew in the ratio of the genders of their sex partners is likely to develop very quickly, because most sex buyers are men.
Jack Talks About Sex Work 