I very much want to be a parent. As someone who sells sex, and who has both an online presence as a sex worker activist and an online presence under a sex worker persona, I’m scared about how the stigma I face will impact parenthood. I thought I’d share my thoughts here.
Tag Archives: prostitution
Post-Client High
As long as a client is not outright abusive or uniquely difficult, the moments after finishing a booking where I hold the money in my hands are an immense high for me. The novelty of earning a day’s wages at another job in the space of an hour never fully wears off.
Contemporary Prostitution – A Companion Book
Here is a PDF copy of “Contemporary Companion”. Physical copies were Kickstarter exclusive and there is no e-book for sale, but subscribers here get to read the digital copy! Whilst this book heavily references “Contemporary Prostitution: Study of a Social Question”, originally published in 1884, which I recently translated and published, it is not necessaryContinue reading “Contemporary Prostitution – A Companion Book”
My Friend is a Sex Worker and I Have Questions!
You’ve just found out that your friend or acquaintance is a sex worker. Naturally, you have questions.
Let’s go through some of the topics you might be curious about and how to approach any questions you still have with your friend:
Selling Sex and Scarcity Mindset
As someone with a history of homelessness and financial struggle, which I have always used sex work to remedy, my stress about finances has always been connected to an expectation that selling sex is the sole solution.
After Client Aftercare
Sometimes my need for aftercare has been due to a client harming me. Far more frequently, I need it to insulate myself from the stigma which makes me feel alone and ashamed and far more resentful, than I otherwise would be, of an experience which is usually more on the side of annoying than traumatic. Being around other sex workers frees me from those feelings.
Attention Deficit Hooker Disorder
Not all types of sex work are well-suited to ADHD, but it is an easier profession to make accommodating than most. There are certain types of sex work which are favoured by those with ADHD, all of which are impacted by it.
Sexual Autopilot
I’m sure it’s not strictly true that I can’t have sex without slipping into what I think about as my “sex autopilot” mindset. For now, I seem to slip into it often, and it destroys my romantic relationships.
Bullshit Radical Feminist Arguments About Sex Work
Sex work is indeed often dangerous, particularly prostitution. It’s made that way by criminalization and stigma. Decriminalizing it gives sex workers more rights, more freedom, and more control over our bodies and consent. Radical feminists do not wish me well.
Criminalized Friendships
Being friends with a sex worker may mean you face stigma, but if you’re a good friend and you support the sex workers you know then you could also find yourself breaking the law. The law may even end up considering you to be your own friend’s sex trafficker.
Jack Talks About Sex Work 