One accusation often levelled at sex workers is that we spread disease. Instead of responding to this by talking about safety measures we take, we should refuse to see catching a disease as a moral failing. There have always been claims about sex workers being “dirty” or “diseased”, mainly with STDs like HIV as theContinue reading “Hookers Carrying Diseases?”
Category Archives: Stigma
Taking a Break from Sex Work
If you want to travel to the US, you have to say you haven’t sold sex in the last ten years to enter. Assuming you’re on one of their lists, known to be a sex worker, you won’t even be able to appeal for a decade. If you want to report a sexual assault andContinue reading “Taking a Break from Sex Work”
Sometimes Selling Sex is a Better Option
When I started selling sex, it was my last resort. The stigma around sex work in society means that it often takes an extreme event (homelessness, the inability to pay for food, the need to pay for urgent healthcare) for someone to start. Once you’ve been involved in sex work, that threshold becomes lower. You’veContinue reading “Sometimes Selling Sex is a Better Option”
Clients Cheating On Their Partners
I’m often asked how I feel about the fact that many of my clients are cheating on their spouses or partners with me. My clients are primarily men who are in relationships, if my estimates are correct, based on the clients who tell me so or who wear wedding rings during bookings. It’s something IContinue reading “Clients Cheating On Their Partners”
How Underage Sex Work Really Feels
When I was 17, I started escorting on Seeking Arrangement. The first “sugar daddy” I met there was a serial rapist, choosing “sugar babies” on the site who were inexperienced and that he thought were underage, even though we had to pretend to be over 18. At the time, reading the claims on his profileContinue reading “How Underage Sex Work Really Feels”
Being a Client
People often come to me looking to absolve their guilt about having been a client, or continuing to be a client of sex workers. I am not here to absolve you. I don’t centre the experiences of people who purchase sex, I centre the experiences of sex workers. When I see sex workers talk aboutContinue reading “Being a Client”
“I’d be an escort if not for…”
Sometimes clients will tell me that if they were attractive women, they would be escorts. This comes with the assumption that if they were women, they’d be attracted to men and have a high sex drive. Usually, when I prod carefully at this idea, it becomes clear that they have this imagined idea of whatContinue reading ““I’d be an escort if not for…””
The “Happy Hooker” Narrative
To argue against the decriminalization of sex work and to infantilize escorts to the point of arguing that arresting us is what’s best for us, people will talk about how dangerous it is to engage in prostitution. It is common for those who argue for the Nordic Model for sex work, or who want toContinue reading “The “Happy Hooker” Narrative”
Racism Among Sex Workers
Anyone who looks through the profiles of sex workers regularly is going to notice a pattern of racism, particularly in the form of escorts stating “No Black Men” or “NBA” meaning “No Blacks Allowed” on their profiles. When I am scrolling through the profiles of other escorts to get an idea of what hourly ratesContinue reading “Racism Among Sex Workers”
Seeing Clients During Covid-19
There is always a significant amount of risk that is associated with seeing clients as a sex worker, especially when you are meeting them in your own home. The difference during the pandemic, is that risk is now not only on a personal level. Every time I see a client, there is a risk thatContinue reading “Seeing Clients During Covid-19”
Jack Talks About Sex Work 