Aside from catering to the occasional client with a menstruation fetish, sex workers who experience periods can have a tough time when we start bleeding.
Category Archives: Personal Experiences
Reflections on Sex Work During the Covid Lockdown
Covid has had a profound impact on how many sex workers view health, including the health of our clients, and the way we work. I don’t think enough of us have taken the time to consider just how much, and I finally have been.
Self-Conscious Because of Clients
Clients don’t deserve to make me self-conscious. They aren’t people who I truly care about the opinions of, yet in trying to please them I make choices that turn my appearance into something I like less and which feels less like me.
Clients Cancelling
A cancellation from a sex worker is a minor inconvenience to a client. They can book another sex worker or forego seeing one without any significant consequences. If a client cancels on a sex worker, that cancellation may be the difference between being able to afford food or rent.
Fears About Parenthood as a Sex Worker
I very much want to be a parent. As someone who sells sex, and who has both an online presence as a sex worker activist and an online presence under a sex worker persona, I’m scared about how the stigma I face will impact parenthood. I thought I’d share my thoughts here.
Post-Client High
As long as a client is not outright abusive or uniquely difficult, the moments after finishing a booking where I hold the money in my hands are an immense high for me. The novelty of earning a day’s wages at another job in the space of an hour never fully wears off.
After Client Aftercare
Sometimes my need for aftercare has been due to a client harming me. Far more frequently, I need it to insulate myself from the stigma which makes me feel alone and ashamed and far more resentful, than I otherwise would be, of an experience which is usually more on the side of annoying than traumatic. Being around other sex workers frees me from those feelings.
Sexual Autopilot
I’m sure it’s not strictly true that I can’t have sex without slipping into what I think about as my “sex autopilot” mindset. For now, I seem to slip into it often, and it destroys my romantic relationships.
Transparent Personas
I’m aware that there are ways I can be tracked, that people can connect together my work persona for sex work and my real identity, and I’ve had to make some decisions about how I handle that.
When a Police Officer Showed Up at the Brothel
This post discusses a personal story of being coerced into selling sex to a police officer, under threat of the brothel I was working in being raided in the future. The descriptions are non-graphic, and I mostly talk about my complicated feelings around how I feel like I’ve been lucky compared to others because my experience was not worse.
Jack Talks About Sex Work 