There have always been Christian groups who speak about sex work as sinful, but now there is an increasing trend toward seeing sex workers as victims who must be rescued. These groups tend to see sex workers either as fallen women (because of course, they don’t recognize how many sex workers are not women) whoContinue reading “Christian Groups and “Rescuing” Sex Workers”
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Clients Cheating On Their Partners
I’m often asked how I feel about the fact that many of my clients are cheating on their spouses or partners with me. My clients are primarily men who are in relationships, if my estimates are correct, based on the clients who tell me so or who wear wedding rings during bookings. It’s something IContinue reading “Clients Cheating On Their Partners”
How Underage Sex Work Really Feels
When I was 17, I started escorting on Seeking Arrangement. The first “sugar daddy” I met there was a serial rapist, choosing “sugar babies” on the site who were inexperienced and that he thought were underage, even though we had to pretend to be over 18. At the time, reading the claims on his profileContinue reading “How Underage Sex Work Really Feels”
Clients Wanting Reassurance
I’ve recently had more clients asking for reassurance that I like my job or find them attractive during bookings, and I have some thoughts on it. For a number of clients, I think this desire for reassurance does come from a good place. There’s a lot of messaging about sex work that paints all escortsContinue reading “Clients Wanting Reassurance”
Clients Assuming Consent
There is a common framing of sex work, where people suggest that sex worker’s bodies are being “purchased” or “rented” when someone pays us for sex. This is not the case. Those of us who sell sex are doing exactly that – selling a sexual service, which will include certain things and not automatically includeContinue reading “Clients Assuming Consent”
The “Happy Hooker” Narrative
To argue against the decriminalization of sex work and to infantilize escorts to the point of arguing that arresting us is what’s best for us, people will talk about how dangerous it is to engage in prostitution. It is common for those who argue for the Nordic Model for sex work, or who want toContinue reading “The “Happy Hooker” Narrative”
Racism Among Sex Workers
Anyone who looks through the profiles of sex workers regularly is going to notice a pattern of racism, particularly in the form of escorts stating “No Black Men” or “NBA” meaning “No Blacks Allowed” on their profiles. When I am scrolling through the profiles of other escorts to get an idea of what hourly ratesContinue reading “Racism Among Sex Workers”
Empowerment vs Objectification: A False Dichotomy
A common anti-sexwork talking point, is that sex workers contribute to the objectification of women. It is often suggested, by certain groups of radical feminists, that we objectify ourselves and present ourselves as a commodity, in a way which harms women’s liberation as a whole. To combat this, some sex workers will respond that theyContinue reading “Empowerment vs Objectification: A False Dichotomy”
Jack Talks About Sex Work 