I think it’s natural that when presented with talk about sexual abuse and coercion that we automatically picture something brutal and clear-cut. Most of us are exposed to media which depicts rape as involving violent physical force fairly frequently, and when we hear about it related to sex work it’s often with stories of pimpsContinue reading “You’re Not Technically Trapped!”
Category Archives: Clients
Whoring Out Our Trauma
With the global conversation around sex work focusing on sex trafficking and the trauma many sex workers face, sex workers’ stories are subject to being weaponized to deny them the very rights which would protect them from that harm. In Whoring Out Our Trauma: Prostitution and Sexual Abuse, these issues are presented from the pointContinue reading “Whoring Out Our Trauma”
Cost of Living Crisis: How Sex Workers Cope
Those who sell sex often have a very different relationship to our bills and recurring costs than people with traditional full-time jobs, especially compared to those who are on a salary. When I’m hit with an unexpected bill, my first thought is always to sell sex to earn enough to pay it in time. IfContinue reading “Cost of Living Crisis: How Sex Workers Cope”
“All Prostitution is Rape”: A Response
Radical feminists generally lay out the argument that all prostitution is rape as follows: all work under capitalism involves coercion due to the fact that people must earn money to survive, any sex where someone is coerced is rape, therefore prostitution is rape. This is a very simplistic explanation of the argument, but anyone familiarContinue reading ““All Prostitution is Rape”: A Response”
Are Sex Workers Enabling Abusive Men?
Whether you consider all sex workers to be victims, or understand that it’s more complex than that, sex workers aren’t responsible for the behaviour of anyone but themselves. Victims of abuse aren’t enabling abuse by being victims and people in proximity to abusers, who are not their victims, are not automatically responsible for improving theirContinue reading “Are Sex Workers Enabling Abusive Men?”
“I want to be more than a client!”
Among clients of sex workers, there’s a particular type that many of us come across who want to be more than clients. Some fall for our personas, some become convinced of our enthusiasm enough to think we want a regular hook-up, and others are lonely and imagine the money as a shortcut to friendship. TheContinue reading ““I want to be more than a client!””
Intentional Condom Breaking
One of the insidious things about clients who intentionally break condoms is that in most cases where they do it, you’ll never be certain. For clients who frequently break the condom while meeting with sex workers, they develop a technique over time to avoid getting caught. Often they’ll combine tactics like suggesting a position whereContinue reading “Intentional Condom Breaking”
Clients Cheating On Their Partners
I’m often asked how I feel about the fact that many of my clients are cheating on their spouses or partners with me. My clients are primarily men who are in relationships, if my estimates are correct, based on the clients who tell me so or who wear wedding rings during bookings. It’s something IContinue reading “Clients Cheating On Their Partners”
Clients Wanting Reassurance
I’ve recently had more clients asking for reassurance that I like my job or find them attractive during bookings, and I have some thoughts on it. For a number of clients, I think this desire for reassurance does come from a good place. There’s a lot of messaging about sex work that paints all escortsContinue reading “Clients Wanting Reassurance”
Clients Assuming Consent
There is a common framing of sex work, where people suggest that sex worker’s bodies are being “purchased” or “rented” when someone pays us for sex. This is not the case. Those of us who sell sex are doing exactly that – selling a sexual service, which will include certain things and not automatically includeContinue reading “Clients Assuming Consent”
Jack Talks About Sex Work 