Upon admitting that I’m a sex worker, I’ll get a plethora of different responses that range from supportive to deeply bigoted. Somewhere in the middle of the range of those reactions, towards the more supportive end, are people who seem fascinated by my admission that I sell sex and who have all sorts of invasiveContinue reading “Woah, I’ve Never Met a Sex Worker Before!”
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A Guide to (Legally!) Lying About Selling Sex
Selling sex is highly stigmatized and there are many situations in which sex workers are much better off if certain people don’t know they sell sex. This is a guide which discusses the options sex workers have for hiding their work in various situations, both personal and professional.
Pansexual Prostitute Panic
Any attraction to men is imagined to override other elements of a bisexual and/or pansexual person’s identity. For queer people selling sex, a skew in the ratio of the genders of their sex partners is likely to develop very quickly, because most sex buyers are men.
How To Get Rich Making Porn
Anyone can get rich making porn if they just follow this simple formula, without having a pre-existing following or having your family find out!
Does that kind of claim seem too good to be true? That’s because it is. Honest advice about selling porn should include an admission that most people make very little money doing it in the long-term.
Porn and Sex Addiction
The idea of porn addiction is commonly brought up by conservatives or sex worker exclusionary radical feminists as a way to demonize the viewing of pornography. Rhetoric around porn being dangerous and addictive has also infiltrated more liberal or left-wing groups. People can absolutely have compulsive behaviours applying to sex and porn, but the addiction model fails at understanding them.
Short Story: A Safe Brothel Set-up
Summary: Harper starts working at a brothel, needing the extra funds, and finds the brothel owner showing her around to be very frustrating. The owner isn’t used to being the one who’s at risk, and doesn’t know what reaction might be in store from the sex workers he hires. (Warning: Mentions of sexual assault – though no-one is sexually assaulted in this story, descriptions of blood and gore.)
A Therapist You Fuck
Using sex workers to address mental health issues places an unfair burden on an already struggling and marginalized population of people. Regardless of whether having sex can help lonely clients to address their intimacy issues, sex workers are not generally trained therapists and cannot be expected to provide that sort of care.
Poor with Rich Clients: Survival Sex Work and Wealth Disparity
The juxtaposition between being hungry and unsure where you’ll sleep that night and spending an evening in a lavish hotel room with room service is an extreme one. Finding sugar daddies, when I first began selling sex, caused me to experience that first-hand…
What is Survival Sex Work?
A phrase you will see used by some sex worker advocacy organisations is the term “survival sex work”. Typically, this refers to people selling sex in precarious circumstances to meet their basic survival needs on a direct basis. Whilst people who are using prostitution as their sole income are obviously paying for their needs withContinue reading “What is Survival Sex Work?”
You Look Like My…
You might have heard a story before about a client seeing a sex worker after his wife has died who looks similar to her, and I’ve seen those kinds of situations played up as heart-warming and sweet. I have had a couple of clients who’ve told me I look like a partner they lost, mostly early in my time selling sex, but most of the people I’m told I look like aren’t quite so charming…
Jack Talks About Sex Work 